About

Ours

Ours (formerly Actually) is a relationship wellness company that does couples therapy differently. We believe that it’s never too early to proactively invest in your relationship and that every couple should go to couples therapy. Couples come to us from all over, “wanting to understand each other” in different flavors. Some are madly in love and want to take it to the next level, some want a serious change in their relationship, some want to resolve a fight they've been having for years, and some want to prep for the next life stage.

We designed an entirely new approach to couples therapy, taking the best from both traditional couples therapy and group couples therapy. It's convenient, effective, affordable and—dare we say, fun. Our couples programs are rooted in structured conversation guided by a couples therapist and centered around deeply understanding each other, feeling seen and heard, and seeing and hearing our partners. The participants in the Long Second Date are attending a version of the Ours program specifically designed for early-stage couples.

Ours was founded by Jessica Holton & Adam Putterman.

Kelly Gonsalves

Kelly Gonsalves, CSE, is a multi-certified sex educator and relationship coach helping people figure out how to make their dating lives actually feel good—more open, more optimistic, and more pleasurable. With her warm, emotionally intelligent approach to coaching and facilitation, Kelly creates candid, playful spaces for processing and healing challenges around relationships, sexuality, identity, and body image. She’s particularly enthusiastic about helping softhearted women get re-energized around the dating experience and find joy in the process of connecting with others.

Kelly has certifications from The Gottman Institute, Planned Parenthood, and Everyone Deserves Sex Ed, and she is a member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. She also has a degree in journalism from Northwestern University, and her writings on love, lust, and the body have appeared in Cosmopolitan, Teen Vogue, The Cut, Bustle, mindbodygreen, and elsewhere.

Stay in the loop about her upcoming programs, dating workshops, and gatherings by signing up for her occasional newsletter + say hi on Instagram @kellyagonsalves.

Julie Nguyen

Julie Nguyen is a writer, trauma-informed relationship coach, and former matchmaker based in New York City. During her time working at LastFirst Matchmaking and Modern Love Club, she focused on client experience, match scouting, dating feedback, coaching, personality profiling, and image consulting. Over several years, she interviewed thousands of eligible singles and provided a high-touch, intuitive service to growth-oriented clients of all ages, backgrounds, and sexual orientations.

Afterward, she then went on to receive her relationship coaching credentials in intimacy, sex, and communication. She is an advocate for gentle, compassionate, affirming growth and seeks to provide people with an authentic pathway to better understand themselves and cultivate honest, self-aware partnerships. As a big believer in therapy, she was fascinated with the idea of normalizing proactive couples therapy and building a love experiment for singles looking to date with progressive intentionality, vulnerability, and curiosity.